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I celebrate getting to know Inbal. When we met it felt like an instant deep friendship. When I think of her, I mostly think of her as Inbal the person. That's the aspect of her life and work that touched me the most. She was gentle and deep, strong and wise, funny and fun and creative. I felt such resonance with her. She was such a generous spirit.

She wanted everything she did to be of service. She was human to me. I don't put her on a pedestal and yet she was remarkable, that is for sure. I'm so glad to have known her. As I call up her spirit within me, I am in touch with her joy and exuberance, the sparkle in her eyes and smile, her openness and wonder at the world and trust in life.

I have grown and learned so much in the years since she died and have a sense that I am starting to live as she did. I wish I could celebrate that with her in real time. To a woman I never met, I was not on this earth when your precious being was born, I was not anywhere around when your precious being passed. Inbal came into this world on 16 May and died on 6 September We, Miki and Arnina, her sisters, mourn that she died before her radical, visionary, and compassionate work got to be more widely known.

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We consider her a spiritual giant, whose big soul we are still following after her death even though she was much younger than both of us. Sometimes, however, it may well mean accepting with sorrow that acting with integrity may lead to uncomfortable impacts that are still in line with our needs and values. Instead, we saw, often, that people jump over the formative experience that all of us can have of bringing our NVC skills to whatever work we do in the world.

When we do that, we contribute to change through mediation, facilitation, supporting decision-making, and all the other ways we can support individuals and groups around us by using our NVC skills. We also then bring a needs awareness everywhere we are, contributing in minute ways to transformation.

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In our experience, more often than not, dramatic shifts happen when we apply what we know without actively teaching people anything. Similar changes often take years for people to experience on their own by learning NVC. Often enough, what we are doing is implicitly asking the other person to hear us, which means the focus is on us receiving something rather than on offering the other person something that would support them and the relationship or purpose we are serving.

In listening to Marshall over the years, Inbal and I understood him to point to the difference between changing a particular decision peripheral change and changing how decisions are made radical change. He urged all of us who wanted to be engaging in social change to focus more on radical change than on peripheral change, so that our efforts would sustain themselves over time.

As a side note, other thinkers see a two-dimensional map, with one axis being core to peripheral and the other axis being radical to incremental. Marshall spoke often about not letting anyone make us submit or rebel. Marshall Rosenberg and taught around the world. I lead workshops for parents, couples, teachers, social change activists, and others who want to connect more deeply with themselves and with others and who want to contribute more effectively to mutual understanding, safety and peace in families, schools, organizations, and in the wider world.

My experience convinces me that what happens in our families both mirrors and contributes to what happens in our societies.

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Just as "enemies" fail to see each other's humanity, so we, too, at times fail to relate with others, even loved ones, with compassion. Probably the primary challenge most parents tell me about is that though they yearn for peace and harmony in their families, they find themselves getting angry with their children more often and more quickly than they would like.

Because the problem-solving model we follow so often relies on the threat of consequences or promises of reward, it's almost guaranteed that anger will crop up regularly. For what children learn from this model is not cooperation, harmony and mutual respect; it's more often the hard lesson of domination: that whoever has more power gets to have his or her way, and that those who have less power can only submit or rebel.

And so we continue the cycle of domination that is leading human beings close to self-destruction. All human beings have the same deep needs. What alternative do we have? As parents, we have a remarkable opportunity to empower our children with life skills for connecting with others, resolving conflicts, and contributing to peace.

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The key to learning these skills is our conception of what human beings are like. Nonviolent Communication teaches that all human beings have the same deep needs, and that people can connect with one another when they understand and empathize with each other's needs. Our conflicts arise not because we have different needs but because we have different strategies for how to meet our needs.

It is on the strategy level that we argue, fight, or go to war, especially when we deem someone else's strategy a block to our own ability to meet our needs.